If you are lucky, you will have already gotten excited and feel like the King or Queen of Hell before you start, but none of us is usually that lucky; we usually have to do something to get excited and enter the dominant role. Is there something physical you know that turns you on, that makes you feel dominant? Janet feels dominant when someone kneels in front of her and sucks on her nipples. Do you like to be kissed by your boots? To be caressed by your feet? Tell your bottom how to do what you like; give concrete details. He will start to feel submission and under your control and you will start to get excited .
WHERE TO START?
“Well, first things, to be terrified. At least a little. Therein lies the challenge. But be brave. Remember, we have faith in you. Starting your job should be putting you and your bottom in a sexy, BDSM session-prone situation: A situation where you are a terrible and powerful person, and your bottom is docile and unable to resist your wishes. |
Sometimes you can convince yourself that you are top simply by acting as top. Give orders, be forceful; it's normal if you don't feel "natural" at first. Imitate the evil person who most appeals to you from a movie, or tops who liked your style at parties. As soon as you start behaving like a top, you will probably start to feel like you get a little excited. And the more you get excited, the more natural your way of dominating will seem and the more you get excited, the more things you will do and as you get more excited and ...
Your bottom will notice your arousal and your dominance and will start to get excited too, and add its energy to the scene you are building. And before you know it, there you will be, comfortably in your role, with wild excitement and having a wonderful time.
GIVING MOMENTUM
Once you've created the session environment with the right start, you can start to kick-start the session. For most sessions, it is best to start calmly and gradually build up. (Interrogation, terror, and punishment sessions may be an exception.) If you are playing with the sensations, start with the softest caresses or erotic pinches, or whipping that increases little by little with a compact flogger. If your session is more focused on domination and control, you may prefer to start with some commands that you know will not be too intense for your bottom (neither too hard nor too satisfying), such as having to adopt some postures or the order your bottom to stimulate you slightly to put you in situation. Save the really complicated tasks for later, for when your bottom has already “warmed up” and has gotten deeply into its role, as well as the activities that you know that it enchants to him like a prize to fulfill the complicated orders.
Go climbing little by little. If you started with your softest flogger, move on to something a little harder. Tie a little more to prevent your victim from moving around a little more. Start hitting on how your orders are carried out. Challenge your bottom to do something that requires concentration by accepting more stimulation. Janet once had a BDSM session with a top that ordered her to address him with insults, a different one each time, while he whipped her with the cane: “One, thanks, asshole! Two, thanks, memo! Three, thanks, asshole! You don't have to keep going up and up; One of the arts of mastering is to take your bottom to the limit where you think you can not take it anymore, lower the intensity a little for a while doing something more pleasant and then return to the same point where you were and maybe a little further , then go back again… ”
Your bottom will notice your arousal and your dominance and will start to get excited too, and add its energy to the scene you are building. And before you know it, there you will be, comfortably in your role, with wild excitement and having a wonderful time.
GIVING MOMENTUM
Once you've created the session environment with the right start, you can start to kick-start the session. For most sessions, it is best to start calmly and gradually build up. (Interrogation, terror, and punishment sessions may be an exception.) If you are playing with the sensations, start with the softest caresses or erotic pinches, or whipping that increases little by little with a compact flogger. If your session is more focused on domination and control, you may prefer to start with some commands that you know will not be too intense for your bottom (neither too hard nor too satisfying), such as having to adopt some postures or the order your bottom to stimulate you slightly to put you in situation. Save the really complicated tasks for later, for when your bottom has already “warmed up” and has gotten deeply into its role, as well as the activities that you know that it enchants to him like a prize to fulfill the complicated orders.
Go climbing little by little. If you started with your softest flogger, move on to something a little harder. Tie a little more to prevent your victim from moving around a little more. Start hitting on how your orders are carried out. Challenge your bottom to do something that requires concentration by accepting more stimulation. Janet once had a BDSM session with a top that ordered her to address him with insults, a different one each time, while he whipped her with the cane: “One, thanks, asshole! Two, thanks, memo! Three, thanks, asshole! You don't have to keep going up and up; One of the arts of mastering is to take your bottom to the limit where you think you can not take it anymore, lower the intensity a little for a while doing something more pleasant and then return to the same point where you were and maybe a little further , then go back again… ”